20 Best Books On Emotional Abuse (2023 Update)

It's okay to have needs of your own you fell in love with him. but over time you've come to realize he's in love with himself—and you feel trapped. his needs, his problems, and his plans always seem to take precedence over yours. david hawkins, director of the marriage recovery center, offers a guide to help you identify signs of narcissism, understand how your loved one's issues are affecting you, and prepare a biblical game plan for freeing yourself to live courageously in light of god's love. whether the man in your life can be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder (npd), exhibits narcissistic traits and emotionally abusive behavior, or has arrogant and self-centered tendencies, the emotional pain he causes you is very real. discover the truths, wisdom, and grace you need to spark change in your relationship, set boundaries, and experience healing.

“a sensible book, full of insight and hope,”* that offers support and guidance in freeing emotionally abused women from the cycle of abuse and establishing new healthy patterns of relating to others. *booklist – does your husband or lover constantly criticize you and put his needs before yours? – do you sometimes wonder if your best friend is truly a friend? – does your boss try to control your every move? – does your fear of being left alone keep you in chronically hurtful relationships? if any of these questions sound familiar, you could very well be suffering from emotional abuse—the most widespread but also the most hidden abuse that women experience. this type of abuse is just as damaging as physical or sexual abuse. but there is help in this invaluable compassionate sourcebook. as a marriage, family, and child therapist who has grappled with these issues herself, beverly engel guides you through a step-by-step recover process, helping you shed the habits begun in childhood and take the first few steps toward healthy change. using numerous examples drawn from case history and her own therapeutic expertise, engel will show you how to – recognize and understand the abusers in your life – identify the patterns that have kept you emotionally trapped – complete your unfinished business – decide whether to walk away from an abusive relationship or take a stand and stay – heal the damage of abuse by building self-esteem – break the cycle of abuse and open yourself to the promise of healthy relationships

From a leading voice on recovering from toxic relationships, a deeply insightful guide to getting back to your "old self" again–in order to truly heal and move on.jackson mackenzie has helped millions of people in their struggle to understand the experience of toxic relationships. his first book, psychopath free, explained how to identify and survive the immediate situation. in this highly anticipated new book, he guides readers on what to do next–how to fully heal from abuse in order to find love and acceptance for the self and others.through his close work with–and deep connection to–thousands of survivors of abusive relationships jackson discovered that most survivors have symptoms of trauma long after the relationship is over. these range from feelings of numbness and emptiness to depression, perfectionism, substance abuse, and many more. but he’s also found that it is possible to work through these symptoms and find love on the other side, and this book shows how. through a practice of mindfulness, introspection, and exercises using specific tools, readers learn to identify the protective self they've developed – and uncover the core self, so that they can finally move on to live a full and authentic life–to once again feel light, free, and whole, and ready to love again. this book addresses and provides crucial guidance on topics and conditions like: complex ptsd, narcissistic abuse, avoidant personality disorder, codependency, core wounding, toxic shame, borderline personality disorder, and so many more. whole again offers hope and multiple strategies to anyone who has survived a toxic relationship, as well as anyone suffering the effects of a breakup involving lying, cheating and other forms of abuse–to release old wounds and safely let the love back inside where it belongs.

In spite of their physical invisibility, emotional wounds are a very damaging form of abuse. whether caused by words, actions, or even indifference, emotional abuse is common–yet often overlooked.in this helpful guide, dr. jantz reveals how those who have been abused by a spouse, parent, employer, or minister can overcome the past and rebuild their self-image. this revised and updated edition of healing the scars of emotional abuse includes – strategies for dealing with the verbal abuser – self-check quizzes with each chapter – keys to rebuilding relationships – letters from survivors of emotional abuse – new information on dealing with spiritual abuse – and a biblical plan for healing.

For teenagers who have experienced any kind of abuse or abandonment, it can often feel like hope is lost and they're doomed to stay stuck in unhealthy habits and patterns. this teenage edition of mending the soul was written to show teens that by following a path of restoration and allowing god's grace to touch their heart's deepest wounds, they will find hope and healing as they work through their pain. it will help them navigate the emotional trauma of abuse and abandonment, as well as recognize signs of unhealthy families and dating relationships. armed with a better understanding of their past and how the effects of abuse can lead to risky behaviors, shame, trauma and isolation–teens will be encouraged to face their brokenness, to heal and forgive and to look toward their hope-filled future. a practical resource for teens, mending the soul, student edition also offers insight into the struggles parents and ministry leaders face when working with teenage victims of abuse.

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You didn't think anyone could hurt you like this, but now that you're in or have experienced an abusive relationship, what do you do? abuse –whether through hurtful words, degrading looks, obscene gesture, or threatening behavior – inflicts immense pain and impedes emotional growth. june hunt has a message for you: it is possible to stop the pain of abuse. learn biblical truths and practical advice on how to: stop the abuse – heal the pain of the past – foster peace in all your relationships – learn all forms of abuse and what to pay attention to when a relationship gives off warning signs. also included in the definitions section are biblical examples of verbal and emotional abuse. – this mini-book will shed light on the characteristics of verbal and emotional abuse, words used in abusive conversations, methods of sabotage, and examples of what the victims may experience when dealing with an abusive relationship. discover the causes of a person who abuses others and answer hard questions like, "how can he be so cruel?" and "how can she be so insensitive?" the last section titled "steps to solution" gives you practical advice on how to put an end to verbal and emotional abuse with: 7 steps to victory over verbal abuse6 steps to an action plan8 steps for how to confront and cope with emotionally abusive people – honesty test for those who may be abusive5 steps to building personal boundaries – and much more! perfect for small group & bible studies, sunday school, young adult and youth ministry, chaplaincy, christian counseling, addiction & recovery programs, church giveaways, and much more!

If you feel like you are on a runaway emotional roller coaster with your partner at the controls, this book is for you! it can save you years of torment, tumult, and tears.

Burrow inside an emotional abuser's head and find out why i… * am so charming one minute and a raging manic the next * blame you for everything * must stay in control all the time * belittle your feelings, opinions, or your accomplishments * try to punish you * never seem to support you * cut you down in front of friends and family * can't stop my behavior even if i wanted to * cause you to walk on eggshells around me * am angry so much of the time * don't provide your emotional needs * can't admit when i am wrong * expect so much of you * can't accept the word no go on a revealing, first hand journey with a man, husband, and father who spent 33-years locked in the prison of emotional abuse, as it destroyed his 24-year marriage and crippled the woman and children he loves. experience the awakening that hurled him through a nightmarish journey to the most inner core of his soul. discover what he learned during five years of recovery as he put his emotionally destructive lifestyle behind him, and later, discovered that the horrors of his 33-year abusive life stemmed from events that happened as a teenager, following the unexpected death of his father. if you have a dysfunctional relationship or marriage, discover: * the motivations behind the abusive behavior * whether there is hope for the relationship or if it is time to get out * practical tips to heal should your spouse commit to get help anyone trapped in a manipulative, controlling relationship full of anger, yelling, and arguments, yet who yearns to have a relationship and marriage full of love, emotional intimacy, and trust will gain insight and practical knowledge and guidance from this book. answer the questions: * what role childhood plays in an abuser's life * how does a too-close relationship with mom affect a husband * what is the 'payoff' to abuse in marriage * codependency and the role of the rescuer * what type of counseling won't work and which is best * how to know if it's time to leave the relationship * how to tell if your mate is really changing * what is the dr. jekyll / mr. hyde personality * what role anger plays in the abuse inflicted on others * what is arrested development and what role does it play * root causes of abuse if you recognize even some of these traits within yourself, or someone you love, you owe it to you and to all those around you, your spouse, children, family, friends, and coworkers to read this book.

Allison has all the appearances of a perfect life. – no one would ever guess she's been suffering from emotional torment inside the walls of her own home. – fans of dramatic memoirs will devour this captivating read as they journey with allison through her confusion, denial, and grief paired with thoughts of death and murder. can she escape captivity before she loses herself entirely? discover what happens when allison realizes she's not the one who's crazy as her husband made her believe. – what readers are saying: ★★★★★ "i was immediately hooked!" ★★★★★ "i couldn't put it down!!!" ★★★★★ "so raw & real. i blew through over 2/3 of it in one sitting." ★★★★★ "allison k. dagney does an excellent job bringing the reader into the world of narcissistic abuse." ★★★★★ "this book had me feeling, anger, fear, frustration, excitement and above all, a great sense of compassion." ★★★★★ "a very heart-felt and emotional read." to the outside world, allison has all the appearances of a perfect life: a handsome husband with a well-paying job, her own polished good looks, and of course, the most well-behaved children in the neighborhood's elite, private school. – no one would ever guess she's been suffering from emotional torment inside the walls of her own home. – in this memoir, allison k. dagney reveals her secret life of living with an emotional abuser, sharing true tales from eighteen years of marital misery. she feared losing everything, unless she could discover-and remedy-the source of her anguish. – grab your copy of when tears leave scars today to experience this journey from trauma to triumph!

The world-renowned therapist and author of the groundbreaking self-help classic, the emotionally abusive relationship, delves into the most destructive and powerful weapon of the abuser: shame. in the emotionally abused woman, therapist beverly engel introduced the concept of emotional abuse, one of the most subtle, yet devastating forms of abuse within a relationship. now engel exposes the most destructive technique the abuser uses to break our spirit and gain control–and guides readers on how to free themselves from the shame that can keep them from the life (and the love) they deserve.emotionally abused people are gradually stripped of self-esteem, dignity, and humanity–making them feel unworthy and utterly powerless to escape. but they possess a potent tool with which to combat shame: self-compassion. in these pages, engel shows how to access it. using her highly effective shame reduction program, she helps readers jumpstart the process of recovery by offering specific steps to help heal, regain self-confidence–and ultimately become empowered enough to leave–for good.an invaluable resource for both men and women who suffer from emotional abuse, as well as therapists and advocates, escaping emotional abuse is a supportive, nurturing guide for anyone seeking to break the chains of shame, and gain the emotional freedom to create healthier, lasting relationships.

Are you in a relationship with someone who demands to be the center of attention and makes you feel inferior? have you ever wondered if you could ever love again after the pain caused by a narcissistic relationship? are you still in a relationship with a narcissist and looking for a way out? then you need to keep reading… narcissism is on the rise, according to a long-term study published in the journal of clinical psychiatry. this personality disorder is characterized by a constant need for admiration, obsession with status, and lack of empathy. while there's some debate if there is truly a narcissism epidemic, one thing is for sure: being in a relationship with a narcissist can be extremely complicated. here's a preview of what you will discover: why it's important to know immediately if you are in a narcissistic relationship (and the personality traits to watch out for). the little-known reasons narcissists are attracted to certain people and what to do if you're one of them. why a charming personality can be a red flag on a first date and other subtle warning signs. how to effectively stop being a victim even if this has been the status quo for a long time. the exact formula for deciding if the relationship can still be saved and when to get out now for your safety. the secret to finding a trustworthy and generous partner who will help you learn how to love again. the tried and tested ways to heal from a narcissistic relationship and recover your self-worth. and much, much more… even if you feel powerless and your self-esteem is at an all-time low, the expert research behind this guide will ensure that you can identify narcissists on sight, protect yourself from harmful personalities, and stop settling for less than what you deserve. by relying on the expert research in this book, you'll learn how to move on from a narcissistic partner, open yourself to the possibility of a new relationship, and find a genuinely loving and affirming romantic partner. if you want to unlock access to this potent information about relationships and emotional healing, then you should purchase this book

In this fully expanded and updated second edition of the bestselling classic, you learn why verbal abuse is more widespread than ever, and how you can deal with it. you'll get more of the answers you need to recognize abuse when it happens, respond to abusers safely and appropriately, and most important, lead a happier, healthier life.in two all-new chapters, evans reveals the outside stresses driving the rise in verbal abuse–and shows you how you can mitigate the devastating effects on your relationships. she also outlines the levels of abuse that characterize this kind of behavior–from subtle, insidious put-downs that can erode your self-esteem to full-out tantrums of name-calling, screaming, and threatening that can escalate into physical abuse.drawing from hundreds of real situations suffered by real people just like you, evans offers strategies, sample scripts, and action plans designed to help you deal with the abuse–and the abuser.this timely new edition of the verbally abusive relationship, expanded third edition puts you on the road to recognizing and responding to verbal abuse, one crucial step at a time!

Engel doesnt just describeshe shows us the way out. susan forward author of emotional blackmail praise for the emotionally abusive relationship in this book beverly engel clearly and with caring offers stepbystep strategies to stop emotional abuse…helping both victims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful and traumatic type of abuse. this book is a guide both for individuals and for couples stuck in the tragic patterns of emotional abuse.

Engel doesnt just describeshe shows us the way out. susan forward author of emotional blackmail praise for the emotionally abusive relationship in this book beverly engel clearly and with caring offers stepbystep strategies to stop emotional abuse…helping both victims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful and traumatic type of abuse. this book is a guide both for individuals and for couples stuck in the tragic patterns of emotional abuse.

Internationally renowned bible teacher joyce meyer draws on her own history of abuse to show women how christ's redeeming love heals emotional wounds and brings joy to life.can a woman who has been deeply hurt by life's circumstances be healed, heart and soul? if she has been wounded by a man she loved and trusted, can she love and trust again? as a woman who endured years of abuse, abandonment, and betrayal by those closest to her, joyce meyer can answer with a resounding "yes!" meyer's positivity comes from living her own journey, and from seeing so many women who don't believe they can fully overcome their pain–or even know where to begin–find the guidance they need in the life-changing wisdom of the bible.meyer's bestseller beauty for ashes told of her personal story of healing. now, with the passage of more time, healing the soul of a woman delves deeper into joyce's story and the journey of healing for all women. each chapter guides you through whatever obstacles may be holding you back to find your true destiny as god's beloved. god can heal all pain, and he wants to do this in you. let healing the soul of a woman be the first step toward the wonderful, joyful future god intends for you.

Healing your emotional self "emotionally abusive parents are indeed toxic parents, and they cause significant damage to their children's self-esteem, self-image, and body image. in this remarkable book, beverly engel shares her powerful mirror therapy program for helping adult survivors to overcome their shame and self-criticism, become more compassionate and accepting of themselves, and create a more posititve self-image. i strongly recommend it for anyone who was abused or neglected as a child." –susan forward, ph.d., author of toxic parents "in this book, beverly engel documents the wide range of psychological abuses that so many children experience in growing up. engle's insightful questionnaires and exercises provide concrete help in the healing process, and her writing style is lively and engaging. this book is destined to positively affect many lives." –joyce catlett, m.a., coauthor of fear of intimacy the emotionally abusive relationship "beverly engel clearly and with caring offers step-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse . . . helping both victims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful and traumatic type of abuse." –marti tamm loring, ph.d., author of emotional abuse loving him without losing you "a powerful and practical guide to relationships that every woman should read." –barbara de angelis, ph.d., author of are you the one for me?

Are you being bullied in your relationship? maybe it's your husband, wife, partner, boyfriend, or girlfriend. maybe you feel you're being belittled or berated, manipulated, or controlled. maybe you try to shrug it off, telling yourself it's not so bad. the truth is: you are a victim of emotional abuse–but you don't have to take it anymore. you have the power to make it stop. in this inspiring and life-changing book, acclaimed psychologist and relationship expert anne-renée testa, ph.d., shows you how to find your inner strength, learn to stand up for yourself, and finally get the love and respect you deserve. “so many people have their lives torn apart over emotional abuse. testa's book is a must-read for anyone who finds themselves in a destructive relationship.” –nancy grace host of cnn's headline news “nancy grace” and of court tv's “nancy grace's closing arguments” “she tells it like it is and gives an honest and direct approach to get yourself out of an unhealthy relationship.” –maury povich

How many times have you heard the quote "love heals everything" or "love is the only hope in life" or something similar to those lines? when you look around you, you see all these people happily in love and singing poems about the wonders of love. and then you are confused why you are not able to feel anything on those lines. all you feel is a pit in your stomach, a sense of fear and of always being on edge, but all you did was love, right? you did or are doing everything right, yet this "love" does not seem to be magical or does not seem to be healing you; rather, it appears to be destroying you by driving you crazy, and you notice that you have changed not for good. my first book on narcissistic abuse was published in october 2018, and i started writing it, just to share what had helped me after i left my husband after 10 years of emotional abuse. i had been researching a lot on the subject and found some great books online however i just wanted to share the scriptures and prayer plan that had helped me and a few women in my close circle, to get over our terrible experiences. even though i had been divorced for 3 years at the time i wrote the book, i didn't feel ready to share my personal story. in this book, i will share parts of my story, not because i want to prove a point of how much i suffered, but i realize that survivors of psychological abuse share the same fears, and the purpose of my writing this book, is to hold your hand and give you the courage to face yours as i still do every single day to this very day. i am assuming that if you have arrived here reading this book, then you have already begun the journey of true healing and magic. god has directed our paths to cross at this moment in time and i feel privileged to help guide you in the right direction to find true healing and peace. love, for sure, heals and is magical but only when done in the right manner. in the name of love, people can be poisonous and damage even the strongest souls. it is for this reason that love with a narcissist is bad because it is the wrong type of love. a narcissist does not understand love the way normal people understand it. narcissistic abuse is high on the ranks of toxic forms of love. it damages and destroys the soul like no other, completely changing the way you look at yourself. it rips your soul apart and causes destruction. and that is the biggest danger because no matter how the world looks at you, once your idea of yourself changes, then the damage is done. in this book, you will be taken on a journey of healing by understanding the various forms of abuse, the ways to heal, and finally, the ways to find closure. if you are not the victim who is reading this but know someone who may be in the situation, then this book will help you empathize with the victim and help them deal with their situation. congratulations on taking the first step toward healing: accepting the problem. as it has been said, "to err is human, to forgive is divine," by the time you finish this book, you will be able to forgive yourself and attain closure. what are you waiting for? click buy now

How many times have you heard the quote "love heals everything" or "love is the only hope in life" or something similar to those lines? when you look around you, you see all these people happily in love and singing poems about the wonders of love. and then you are confused why you are not able to feel anything on those lines. all you feel is a pit in your stomach, a sense of fear and of always being on edge, but all you did was love, right? you did or are doing everything right, yet this "love" does not seem to be magical or does not seem to be healing you; rather, it appears to be destroying you by driving you crazy, and you notice that you have changed not for good. my first book on narcissistic abuse was published in october 2018, and i started writing it, just to share what had helped me after i left my husband after 10 years of emotional abuse. i had been researching a lot on the subject and found some great books online however i just wanted to share the scriptures and prayer plan that had helped me and a few women in my close circle, to get over our terrible experiences. even though i had been divorced for 3 years at the time i wrote the book, i didn't feel ready to share my personal story. in this book, i will share parts of my story, not because i want to prove a point of how much i suffered, but i realize that survivors of psychological abuse share the same fears, and the purpose of my writing this book, is to hold your hand and give you the courage to face yours as i still do every single day to this very day. i am assuming that if you have arrived here reading this book, then you have already begun the journey of true healing and magic. god has directed our paths to cross at this moment in time and i feel privileged to help guide you in the right direction to find true healing and peace. love, for sure, heals and is magical but only when done in the right manner. in the name of love, people can be poisonous and damage even the strongest souls. it is for this reason that love with a narcissist is bad because it is the wrong type of love. a narcissist does not understand love the way normal people understand it. narcissistic abuse is high on the ranks of toxic forms of love. it damages and destroys the soul like no other, completely changing the way you look at yourself. it rips your soul apart and causes destruction. and that is the biggest danger because no matter how the world looks at you, once your idea of yourself changes, then the damage is done. in this book, you will be taken on a journey of healing by understanding the various forms of abuse, the ways to heal, and finally, the ways to find closure. if you are not the victim who is reading this but know someone who may be in the situation, then this book will help you empathize with the victim and help them deal with their situation. congratulations on taking the first step toward healing: accepting the problem. as it has been said, "to err is human, to forgive is divine," by the time you finish this book, you will be able to forgive yourself and attain closure. what are you waiting for? click buy now